Today, my friend, Raven Mardirosian, releases her latest book (and final in a triology), Home. I first met Raven through the first book in the series, The Reluctant Tarot Reader, and went on to study under her for my Intuitive Wellness Certificate. Ironically (or not!), I wrote about “home” and Raven on my private blog back in February 2013:
Early in December, I stood outside a hotel in a small Vermont town, waiting on my teacher to pick me up (I’m doing a certificate program). It was cold but the sunshine was bright. The rolling hills were still green as the snow had not yet fallen. A song came on over the loudspeaker…not one I recognized, yet within seconds, tears streamed down my face.
“Hold on to me as we go
As we roll down this unfamiliar road
And although this wave is stringing us along
Just know you’re not alone
‘Cause I’m going to make this place your home
Settle down, it’ll all be clear
Don’t pay no mind to the demons
They fill you with fear
The trouble it might drag you down
If you get lost, you can always be found
Just know you’re not alone
‘Cause I’m going to make this place your home”
Who knew then that years later, Raven would write about “home”! While much of Raven’s story is about adoption, even those who aren’t adopted can relate to her journey. After all, the journey “home” is the journey to “self”.
Anyways, I briefly interviewed Raven about her journey…
Tara: If all of time and all of our lives are happening now, how do you imagine your home in an alternate reality?
Raven: I was just speaking to a friend the other day about this concept — though I’m a big believer in past and future lives, my brain has a hard time wrapping around the idea that we are living them all at once. However, I have a strong hunch that I’ve been on this rock for a long time and have had many types of homes. One thing that seems to be a resounding part of my soul is that I’m a passionate seeker of experience — whether as a lonely cowboy on the wide plains of Colorado, bored housewife reading romance novels or an independent woman in 2015. I thrive on movement, interesting ideas and meeting people of different ethnic and cultural backgrounds.
Any home would requires lots of trees, birds and beautiful landscapes. An espresso machine would be nice, too. Oh, and being able to fly.
Tara: How much has your search for “home” also been a path of self-forgiveness and finding self-love?
Raven: That’s basically the definition of home in a nutshell. Discovery and love of myself. Much is made about going off and “finding one’s self” but for an adopted child, it is a crucial part of locating peace within an incomplete story. This can take a lifetime (or many), so I remind myself to have patience and compassion with the journey.
Tara: Obviously, you’re still pretty young….how do you envision your home of the future? What’s your biggest hope for it?
Raven: I’d love to share a home with a beautiful woman and see how I do in the unexplored territory of marriage. I also look forward to creating art and writing books in a lovely, sun-drenched studio, plus taking trips that have no set destination. Life just keeps getting better and better as I grow into it. Being at ease with the home in myself makes all of the difference.
More on Home from Amazon.com:
“Home: Thoughts on Belonging” is Raven Mardirosian’s final memoir in her trilogy (“The Reluctant Tarot Reader: Adventures in the Gypsy Trade” and “Just Another Crazy Cat Lady Story”) and the most intimate to date. Raven tells of her upbringing in a strict, fundamentalist household with two older brothers, also adopted. She makes the difficult decision to leave the church once she comes out as a lesbian and struggles for years with the unanswered question: Who is my mother?
Raven searches for her in the faces of her lovers, over 20 homes in two decades and thousands of miles. She meets her great love, Taurus — and learns what it means to walk away from a soulmate until she can come to terms with her own history.
Heartfelt, despairing and wise, “Home: Thoughts on Belonging” is the story of a woman who doesn’t understand strength until she embraces her story — and, in the telling, finds her freedom.
Raven Mardirosian is the author of Home: Thoughts on Belonging. Her essay, “Christian LGBT Kids: You’re Part of the Plan” is included in the New York Times best-selling anthology, “It Gets Better”.
She’s written 8 other works of non-fiction: “The Reluctant Tarot Reader: Adventures in the Gypsy Trade”; “Just Another Crazy Cat Lady Story”; “365 Ways To Keep It Real, Heal Yourself and Be Free”; “Spirit, Flow: A Photographic Prayer”; “The Words Remain: The Best of Shivaya Wellness”; “We Dream Anew: The Best of Shivaya Wellness, Vol. II”; “Chrysalis: Poems of Release” and “Esprit, Vole: Prière photographique.” She has written 4 works of fiction under a nom de plume and created a relaxation DVD with Dr. William Kelley, “An Hour of Peace: Words, Music and Images for Relaxation”.
Raven developed and hosted the popular BlogTalk radio show, Tarot Talk. She holds an M.A. in English with additional graduate studies at Bread Loaf School of English. Raven was a high school English teacher for many years in New York City and Vermont public schools.
She is a sought-out Tarot reader and teacher who has given thousands of sessions to clients worldwide for a decade. Known for her humor, sensitivity and insight, she continues to offer her gifts through Tarot and Reiki sessions, consulting, classes and books.